In the middle of Anne Lamott's "Bird by Bird", sharing her two cents about writing groups and how good they can be, she told of a group of 4 writers who got together.
They've gone from being four tense, slightly conceited,
lonely people who wanted to write
to one of those weird little families we fashion
out of whoever's around us.
They're very tender with one another.
They all look a lot less slick and cool than they did
when they were in my class,
because helping each other has made their hearts bigger.
(p. 159, emphasis mine)